Fwd: Not good
Letters to Perfectionism #163
Dear Perfectionism,
Here’s you as I understand it ⚙️:
Outwardly, you’re all about the “am I a good guy/gal? look how perfect I can be” to everyone and everything - seeking confirmation (or denial) of that.
Inwardly, your chatter is “yeah but deep-down inside there’s something inherently not-quite-right, bad, wrong or condemnable in here that no one can ever see”.
So we go back to 1. to prove to the world that isn’t so, or find out who we really are.
🫢 Someone called me out on this recently: You think you’re a compassionate, empathetic, nice guy. So where does the anger, resentment, jealousy, wildness, passion and all the other inconvenient human parts go?
That’s easy to answer. They loop around my head indefinitely. Which is exhausting. 🔃
They asked if you and me could welcome them back from the shadows? Can I relate to them in the same way I relate to being a nice guy?
Stumped for an answer. 🤷🏼♀️
Love, Chris x