Fwd: Confusion

Letters to Perfectionism #154

Dear Perfectionism,

Somewhere along the line, I reckon we learned that confusion = danger. I’m realising this only now. 😵‍💫⚠️

If someone or something doesn’t make sense and isn’t coherent, it’s a threat.

To us.

To a perfect world. 🌏

When everything’s ‘wrong,’ broken, unresolvable and unfixed i.e. the way it shouldn’t be - that somehow signals mortal danger to us.

You and I cannot abide when that’s the case. Something must be done. 😶

🤮 And when it can’t… then comes the rumination. We soak up confusion like a sponge and make it our own. So you can perfect it internally, maybe.

Which is exhausting. 💤

But what if confusion is just a state? One that comes and goes.

Like perfect.

Or calm.

I don’t want to waste our gifts owning confusion that isn’t mine.

Love, Chris x